Welcome back. In this series, I’m talking about the six types of people player’s should have in their corner that will help reduce the number of arrested NFL players.
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Let’s finish up.
Jessica describes this person as “the devil’s advocate,” who “asks the hard questions and sees problems before they arise.”
This person can often come across as a pessimist, but when it’s all said and done, they’re just trying to help you avoid avoidable problems.
When I read about this person in her article, I immediately thought about a father filling this role, even though I’ve never been to close with my own dad.
Who’s your doubter?
Who’s that person close to you that may come across as being negative, but if you stop and think about it, they may just be trying to help you by looking at the potential negative affects of things you do (or don’t do)?
Instead of getting mad when they share their “negative” views, why not look through how they come across, and think about their motivation behind what they say and do.
Chances are, you’re going to realize that they’re just trying to help you.
Next time they say something that you would normally perceive as negative, remind yourself of why they’re stepping in to offer their two cents; chances are, they’re just trying to help you.
It’s good to have people like this in your life, because your emotions can influence you to make irrational choices sometimes, and people like this can help you see the pros and cons of your upcoming choices.
Jessica’s description of “The Taskmaster”:
This is the loud and belligerent voice that demands you gets things done. This person is the steward of momentum, making sure deadlines are met and goals are reached. This is the voice of progress.
For me, this is myself, to be honest. But for you, it could very well be a coach, one of your parents, a teacher, or anybody else in your life that pushes you to move forward and keep moving towards your dreams.
I’m not saying that “The Taskmaster” in my life has been myself to sound cocky or anything. I’ve just always been extremely self-driven, sometimes to my own detriment.
No one expects more out of me and pushes me like myself.
But back to you.
If “the Taskmaster” in your life isn’t you, it’s not a bad thing. We all have our own unique personalities and personality traits.
The most important thing is that you have someone in your life that pushes you to move forward in the direction of your dreams.
Connectors are people that help you find innovative ways to get things done, especially when you come across roadblocks or problems that arise that seem to tell you at face value that you’re not going to accomplish your goal.
These are people that think outside the box, and tend to be fairly positively-minded people.
For me, this is my wife. She’s always helping me think of ways to get around what I think are devastating road blocks.
These people are worth their weight in gold, and I’m not just saying that because my wife will be reading this post (love you baby!).
Show this person appreciation constantly. There’s nothing like the realization that your dream is still alive, and that all you had to do was look at it from a different perspective and keep pushing.
The Example is your mentor. They’re someone who’s been there, and done that. They’re someone who you want to be like.
Even without pep talks, when you’re around them, they inspire you, and remind you that you can make it. You long to make this person proud.
If you want to play pro football someday, this might be a person that’s a family friend, or someone you befriend that currently plays pro, or used to.
I hope you got something out of this “change of pace” post, I know I enjoyed writing it.
Regardless of whether you make it to play pro football or not, if you have these people in your inner circle, your chances of making some of the dumb mistakes some guys make in the NFL go down tremendously.
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REFERENCE: “The 6 People You Need in Your Corner” (Forbes.com)